As summer fades and the excitement of the back-to-school season fills the air, it can be a challenging time for those of us on the difficult path of infertility.

That flood of social media posts with adorable kids holding their chalkboard signs—proudly displaying their grade and big dreams for the year—can feel like a painful reminder of what we long for but don’t yet have.

If you’re struggling during this season, know that you’re not alone.

Here is our syllabus on how to get through this back-to-school semester of life:

1. Take Attendance: Honor Your Emotions

   It’s okay to feel sad, jealous, or frustrated. Infertility is an emotional journey, and it’s natural to have these feelings. Allow yourself to feel them without judgment.

2. Set Boundaries: Draw Your Own Classroom Rules

   Protect your mental health by limiting exposure to triggers. It’s okay to unfollow social media accounts or skip events that are too painful right now.

3. Find Your Study Group: Seek Support

   Connect with others who understand what you’re going through. Whether it’s a friend, a support group, or an online community (like Fruitful’s upcoming support groups!), sharing your experience can help you feel less isolated.

4. Create Your Own Curriculum: Establish New Traditions

   If this season feels difficult, try shifting the focus. Plan a special outing, dive into a hobby, or create a new tradition that brings you joy.

5. Focus on Your Homework: Control What You Can

   Infertility can make you feel powerless, but there are things you can control. Focus on your health, relationships, and things that bring you happiness and fulfillment.

6. Give Yourself a Passing Grade: Be Gentle with Yourself

   Remember, it’s okay to not be okay. Give yourself grace, and acknowledge that you’re doing your best on a challenging journey.

7. Keep Recess in Mind: Hold onto Hope

   Though this season might be a reminder of what’s missing, your journey is not over. There’s still hope for the future, and your story is still being written.

Facing the back-to-school season while dealing with infertility is like starting a new school year with an empty desk—sharpened pencils and fresh supplies, but something still missing. Be gentle with yourself, seek support, and remember that just like a new year brings new opportunities, your journey is still unfolding, with brighter days ahead.