With the High Holidays around the corner, we find ourselves preparing for one of the most reflective moments of the season: Tashlich. This beautiful ritual, usually done between Rosh Hashanah and Sukkot, invites us to a body of water—like a river, lake, or even the ocean—to symbolically cast off our mistakes and regrets. We toss bread crumbs or stones into the water, hoping to wash away what we no longer want to carry.

But for those of us who come from mixed-heritage backgrounds or who don’t always feel like we fit neatly into the traditional Jewish mold, Tashlich can take on a whole new meaning. How can we make this ritual resonate with our diverse stories and unique Jewish journeys?

Flowing with Our Unique Stories

Tashlich is all about water—one of nature’s most powerful symbols. Water moves and changes, just like our identities. No matter where we come from or how we practice, we’re all part of this beautiful, flowing tradition. So, if you’re someone who doesn’t feel 100% “this” or “that,” know that Tashlich is a reminder that there’s no single way to be Jewish. Our diverse backgrounds only add more color and depth to the mix.

When we show up for Tashlich, we’re not just letting go of our mistakes; we’re also letting go of any fears about not belonging. We’re saying, “Hey, I’m here, just as I am, and that’s enough.” This ritual becomes a chance to affirm that every one of us has a place, regardless of our background or level of observance.

Making Tashlich Your Own

There’s no rulebook for how to do Tashlich “right.” Here are some ideas to help you make it feel like yours:

  1. Choose What You Cast Off: Instead of bread crumbs, why not use something that has personal meaning to you? Maybe flower petals for growth, small stones for strength, or biodegradable paper with words you want to release.
  2. Bring Your People Together: Tashlich is a great time to gather friends, family, or anyone from your community. Share stories and reflections that highlight everyone’s unique paths and experiences. It can be a powerful way to feel connected and embraced by a diverse group.
  3. Find Your Special Spot: The water you choose can be meaningful. It might be a river your ancestors crossed, a nearby lake, or even a small bowl of water at home. What matters most is the intention you bring, not the location.
  4. Think of Tashlich as a Process: Who says Tashlich has to be a one-time thing? Consider it a season of reflection, or something you return to whenever you feel the need to let go or start fresh.

Finding Belonging in the Flow

This year, as we gather by the water, let’s remind ourselves that casting off is also an act of embracing who we are. We’re letting go of judgments and the fear of being different. Our mixed heritages and unique experiences are what make the Jewish community so vibrant.

So, come to the water’s edge just as you are, with all your stories, traditions, and beautiful complexities. There’s room for everyone in this flowing, ever-expanding community.

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